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A Juicy ‘Quickie’ Story – Part 1…
“What the hell am I doing? I’m a good girl. I just do not do things like this.”
A tiny fraction of my brain was murmuring at the back of my mind, but the remainder of my consciousness was sending my hands on a thorough exploration of the thickly haired chest that had appeared from beneath my companion’s polo shirt. The fact that I never liked men with hairy chests seemed irrelevant.
John thrust a hand beneath my top and squeezed my left nipple hard – wonderfully hard, making me squeal with pleasure. For a split second I remembered how thin the walls were between my house and my neighbor’s, but I was instantly deflected from worry by the speed at which my top was being removed, and my breasts freed from their suddenly tight confinement.
Seconds later, I was grabbing at his trouser waistband… (Read on – www.OystersandChocolate.com)
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Sexy Black History – A Fresh Look
FINALLY, a look at the sexy side of February’s Black History month! Thanks to Gloria Brame and her blog – Inside the Oversexed Mind of Gloria Brame, we can enjoy a photo collection of some of the most beautiful, erotic black women that have graced our presence through the years. I invite you to delight yourself as you savor this album titled, ‘Sexy Black History’. You’ll find an alluring portfolio of exotic dancers, cover girls, and bathing beauties… from Diahann Carroll to Eartha Kitt they are “simple, sweet and lovely”. ENJOY!
♦ Sexy Black History: Cover Girls
♦ Sexy Black History: Nude Models
♦ Sexy Black History: Bathing Beauties 1
♦ Sexy Black History: Bathing Beauties 2
♦ Sexy Black History: Bathing Beauties 3
♦ Sexy Black History: Exotic Dancers
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Valentine’s Day – Kinky Pagan Sex Ritual?
~ PAGAN ORIGINS of a CHRISTIANIZED HOLIDAY ~
As an estimated 1 billion cards are exchanged this Valentine’s Day, perhaps we should take a look at where this popular holiday came from.
In Pagan Rome, February 14 was set aside for the Eve of Lupercalia, which was an ancient Roman festival named for the fertility god Lupercus. The holiday was devoted to the Goddess Juno, Queen of the gods and patroness of marriage. The Eve of Lupercalia (February 14) was also the day when young ladies’ names were written on slips of paper and thrown into jars to be picked out one by one by the young men. The chooser and the chosen would then be partnered together for the rest of the festival. These pairings often resulted in lasting relationships.
The Lupercalia Festival itself actually started on February 15. (The name of 
the month comes from Februa – meaning purifying & cleaning. No doubt, this is where we get our urge to do a little ’spring cleaning’ every year about this time.) Lupercalia was a Roman ritual of purification and fertility, and the main activity was lustration (light flogging) with a goat skin scourge. The purpose of the flogging and animal sacrifices was to purify the people from curses, bad luck and infertility. Afterwards, the young men would run through the streets naked in playfulness and laughter, lightly whipping women with the hide of the slain animal to promote fertility. Then the young ladies would purposely and playfully present their hands or their backsides to be struck, believing that this would help them when pregnant to have an easy delivery, and would help the barren to become pregnant. Of course, this was before Christianity had infused society with a heavy dose of shame about sexuality. People of this period could celebrate and express sexuality openly in the middle of town!
Later, as Christianity began to oppressively replace Paganism, Pope Gelasius I in 496 A.D. abolished Lupercalia in order to do away with what he considered “barbaric, immoral and un-Christian” practices. He then established St. Valentine’s Day, named after a Christian priest and martyr named Valentinus.
So how does a chubby cherub with a bow and arrow get mixed up into all of 
this? In Roman mythology, they called him Cupid. He was innocent like a child, though sometimes mischievous or ‘naughty’. He was represented as a young, winged boy, who was blindfolded (as love is blind) carrying a bow and arrows. The arrows would strike someone’s heart and make them fall in love. And even though Cupid was often a boy, the images of winged, rosy-faced babies may be based on images from Renaissance painters. They painted a smaller group of winged infants who often accompanied Cupid called Amorini or Amoretti -”the messengers of love”
However, in ancient Greek mythology, Cupid was know as the god Eros, and was an older, fiercer god. Eros was no meddlesome child to the Greeks, but a powerful god to be feared. His arrows “burned with the fire of lust and madness” as well as with romance. In the worst of cases, Eros was capable of driving men and women to betrayal of their families and countries, to rape, murder and even suicide.
Later, Eros and Cupid became the personification of love in all its manifestations including strong & passionate physical love, tender & romantic love, and playful, sportive love.
This holiday marks the beginning of Spring, new life, fertility and the mating season. It persists in our memory as the day of love in all its wonder!
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Sex Twice a Week Keeps the Doctor Away
MEN who have sex at least twice a week can cut their risk of heart disease almost in half according to new research.
So, a roll in the hay keeps the doctor away you say? According to The American Journal of Cardiology, men who indulge in regular lovemaking are up to 45 percent less likely to develop life-threatening heart conditions. The researchers were so impressed with their findings that they suggested doctors start screening men for sexual activity as a way to determine their risk for heart disease.
Sex is an activity that involves intense physical and emotional elements, and is likely to result in intense benefits as well. The researchers from the New England Research Institute in Massachusetts, who led this study, believe that sex may be a marker for a healthy heart because:
• Sex can be a form of physical activity that, like exercise, gives your heart a workout.
• People who have a desire for frequent sex, and are able to do so, are likely healthier overall.
• Sex has also been found to boost self-esteem and improve intimacy in your relationship.
This is because sex and orgasms result in increased levels of the hormone oxytocin. This hormone can evoke feelings of contentment, reduction in anxiety, and feelings of calmness and security around a mate. As oxytocin increases, so do hormones known as endorphins, which in turn lessen feelings of pain related to everything from headaches and arthritis to symptoms of PMS. Sex can even help you to get a better night’s sleep!
So if your doctor starts grilling you about your bedroom habits, now at least you’ll know why.
The American Journal of Cardiology January 15, 2010
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6 Ways to Have a Successful Sexy Threesome
MÉNAGE À TROIS tres bien? If you’ve been toying with the idea of having a 3-way sexual encounter, what keeps you from ‘taking the plunge’? Anytime is the right time for a good threesome. Perhaps you’ve ‘been there done that’ already and it just didn’t turn out as you’d planned. Reid Mihalko of ReidAboutSex.com was Reid-About-Threesomes last night at The Pleasure Chest Los Angeles where he hosted a class called ‘Negotiating Successful and Sexy Threesomes”. I visited just to brush up on my own negotiation skills of course, and found the whole evening well worth attending.
What is a successful threesome anyway? Reid posed this question to the audience last night. In my opinion, I know my 3-way date is a success if everyone leaves satisfied and feeling like a winner – a ‘win-win-win’ situation. I see ‘thumbs up’, I hear a comment like, ‘”Hey, let’s try that again soon”, or we decide to grab a bite to eat together and we all want to linger. Wondering how to create a rewarding, sexy threesome? I believe communication is the key! And it just so happens that I took home 6 effective tips from the evening that I’d love to share…
1. Expand your ideas about what a threesome is. It is not defined only by ’swingers’ or ’swappers’, not only among those within ‘polyamory’ circles, nor is it only between 2 women & a man, 2 men & a woman, 3 men, or 3 women, or even between transgendered individuals. There are many different variations for threesomes and endless possibilities for pleasure. Open your horizons to consider adults combining any three-in-a-bed, and your perspectives may change on the whole subject.
2. Express your desire to participate in a threesome or not to. It is okay to veto or say no to a 3-way encounter, as it is also okay to initiate one. As Reid recommends when he’s with 2 people he’d like to get cozy with, “I break the ice by saying ‘I have an idea…’ “
3. Don’t be afraid to feel awkward. Reid suggested, ‘”If you can feel comfortable with being awkward, you can succeed”. I believe we tend to take sex a little too seriously in our society. Sex can be about fun and play, not just procreation. And we are all allowed to make mistakes, express ourselves, and learn. Practice makes perfect!
4. Have the ’safer sex’ talk immediately. I have found that this can be a deal -breaker and should not be taken lightly if you value your health. Discussing safer sex practices and testing is important before you hit the bedroom. This is a way of ’screening’ or ‘interviewing’ your potential playmates to see if you’re compatible to continue.
5. Clearly discuss your rules, boundaries and needs without hesitation. (Be sure to do your homework before considering an encounter so you know what your rules and boundaries are – believe me, you have them!) If you’ve gotten this far and you’re ready for play, your communication needs to become even more specific now. It’s important to agree upon ’safe words’ or stop signals if the need should arise. Perhaps you decide on using ‘timeouts’ to regroup, to overcome jealousy, or in case someone is feeling left out. Talking about this before hand can create smooth sailing later.
6. Invite a sexual professional to participate in your threesome as a facilitator if you desire. There are many different types of sexual facilitators such as sex surrogates, sex coaches, sexual shamans, Tantra & Taoist practitioners, sensual massage therapists, courtesans, etc. And any of these professionals, if well-educated, trained and experienced, can be a wonderful asset to assist you with your threesome exploration if you decide that this is something that you may need. Hercules from ThePleasureCoach.org says, “Having a threesome doesn’t mean you have to have sexual intercourse. You could explore receiving an erotic massage while others watch or having one all together… Other possibilities could include just kissing or cuddling, food play or body painting, and even experimenting with adult toys together. ” As Reid suggested last night, “Even voyeurism is participation”.
So, now that you’re armed with the basics, go forth, be safe and have fun!
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A Porn Star for Senator??
SCOTT BROWN, once named “America’s Sexiest Man” when he posed nude in a 1982 issue of Cosmopolitan, has now become a hero of Senate Republicans after scoring an upset victory in Massachusetts last week. But according to Missy Comley Beattie, political writer for CounterPunch, the question of the hour seems to be “Could a Woman who Posed Nude Get Elected for Senator??”.
As Missy so aptly states, “If a female candidate had posed nude with an arm across her breasts to hide her nipples and her hand covering her woman machine, can you imagine the storm of criticism that would lightning strike and electrocute her campaign? She would be fried.” I would tend to agree with Missy on this, especially since we see that even beauty pageant titleholders have to relinquish their crowns when a nude photograph or video emerges of one of them in various stages of undress. However, it seems that the question of the hour is not going unchallenged for 2010. Do I smell a sexual revolution coming on in America??
Stormy Daniels, a 30-year-old adult film star with more than 150 steamy flicks to her name, is getting set to heat up Louisiana’s 2010 Senate race. Daniels, the star of Operation Desert Stormy — in which she plays a CIA agent who fights terrorists while wearing Army-fatigue booty shorts — says she plans to toss her G-string in the ring (although she hadn’t officially announced her candidacy as of press time). When asked why she wants to forgo porn for politics:
Q: Why shoot for the Senate?
A: I was drafted by a group called Draft Stormy, a grassroots movement in Louisiana that wanted someone who was the polar opposite of current senator David Vitter. They figured I would be perfect because I am open and honest about my sexuality, unlike Vitter. I realized that this is my chance to make a difference, to do something unselfish, noble, and to help a lot of people… (more of this interview…)
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Still More on “Older Men Have Better Sex”
IN MY last article about older men having better sex, I happily proclaimed that many men still have an exceptional sex drive as they get older, even though men tend to reach their sexual prime in their late 20’s and 30’s. And just to recap, I mentioned 3 great sex tips to keep you on top of your game: 1) More Foreplay, 2) Maintain Good Health, and 3) Try New Things… Now this week, I’ve added what I believe is an excellent video on the subject from sex therapist & educator Ina Mlekush. Let her tell you about creating hot sex in your life! www.SpiritualSexuality.com
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UpComing Sexy Events! Jan/Feb 2010
Some of the latest affairs, diversions, and happenings this month around the world…
JANUARY/FEBRUARY 2010
Ends Jan 31, 2010 Tears of Eros; Madrid, Spain /The exhibition is shown in the Museum Thyssen-Bornemisza and Fundación Caja Madrid and takes its name from Les Larmes d’Éros (1961), Georges Bataille’s last book before his death and his final contribution on a theme he had researched in depth in Eroticism (1957): the intimate relationship between Eros and Thanatos, between sex drive and death instinct. Bataille took as his starting point the certainty that in the petite mort of the orgasm we experience an avant-goût – a foretaste – of death. www.museothyssen.org
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Feb 3, 2010 Erotic Awards Showcase; London/ The Erotic Awards honor the Stars in the Erotic Universe. While other awards concentrate on the commercial sex industry, we select artists and pioneers with unique talents, people who are ground-breakers, pioneers and innovators. We include the famous, the struggling and the previously unknown. http://www.erotic-awards.co.uk/
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Feb 5-7, 2010 The Taboo Naughty But Nice Sex Show; Winnipeg Canada/ This is an upscale consumer trade show dedicated to romance and self-improvement – most of all, it’s a lot of fun! The show’s primary objective is to bring the industry together with prospective buyers in a comfortable, sophisticated and non-threatening environment.
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Feb 5-7, 2010 500 Yrs of Gay-Lesbian Material; The British Library London UK/ This library is showcasing an extensive collection of lesbian and gay-related material spanning almost five centuries. From The Yokel’s Preceptor, an 1850s guide to ‘low-life’ activities in London, to recent magazines, it is surely the largest and most comprehensive collection of the genre in any research institution. The British Library Events
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Feb 9-11, 2010 XBIZ LA- XBIZ Awards; Los Angeles CA/ This is a 3-day business-to-business event that explores and uncovers the impact of technology on the multi-billion dollar adult entertainment industry. Every year, industry professionals from around the globe attend XBIZ LA to gain unparalleled insight on emerging technologies, market trends and business solutions http://www.xbizconference.com/
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Feb 13-15, 2010 Rio Carnaval; Brazil / Rio de Janeiro has long been regarded as the Carnival Capital of the World. The Rio Carnaval is the biggest Carnival and one of the most interesting artistic events on the Globe. Sexy, exotic, non-stop music and dancing – foreign visitors to Carnaval number around 500,000 every year. http://www.rio-carnival.net/
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Feb 16–21, 2010 CineKink; New York City/ CineKink NYC is seeking films and videos of any length and genre, that explore and celebrate the wide diversity of sexuality. We’re looking to blur some boundaries and will be considering offerings drawn from both Hollywood and beyond, with works ranging from documentary to drama, camp comedy to hot porn, mildly spicy to quite explicit — and everything in between. Cutting across orientations, topics covered at CineKink have included — but are by no means limited to — BDSM, leather and fetish, swinging, non-monogamy and polyamory, roleplay and gender bending, sex work and sex geekery. http://www.cinekink.com/entries/
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Feb 26-28, 2010 Dark Odyssey-WinterFire; Washington D.C./ Dark Odyssey is a weekend convention for open-minded adults from all walks of life. This year’s Winter Fire is taking place at a first class nationally known hotel in downtown Washington, DC. Join us on an adventure where we play, discover, and learn to achieve more ecstatic states of love, awareness, and personal sexuality. Dark Odyssey will immerse you in an atmosphere of sexual energy and experimentation that will add excitement and passion to your relationships and create deeper levels of connection between you and your partners.
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Older Men Have Better Sex…
MANY MEN still have an exceptional sex drive as they get older, even though men tend to reach their sexual prime in their late 20’s and 30’s. So how can older men have better sex? Is the only real solution to take Viagra or use penis pumps? Here are some great sex tips to keep you on top of your game.
More Foreplay
As men grow older, they may need more stimulation to achieve orgasm or to become aroused. This is something that simply results from decreasing levels of testosterone. Before you go out and buy a bottle of pills, try having more foreplay before sex, and even before masturbation. Women love foreplay, and this can be a key to helping you achieve and maintain a lasting erection that will keep her satisfied.
Maintain Good Health
Older men in good health report having a better sex life, as opposed to men who aren’t physically fit. Exercise and healthy eating can definitely improve your sexual health. Men with physical conditions such as heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure and other chronic ailments, may find a decrease in sex drive or the inability to get or maintain an erection. Certain medications may also cause these side effects as well. It is important to see your doctor regularly for checkups and blood tests. Your doctor can help with sexual issues that may arise.
Try New Things
There are many varieties of sex that can still be fun at an older age. Try using toys, tantra or anal play. And even having sex at different times of the day or in different places, can add something fresh. Remember that intercourse is only part of the intimacy that you share with your partner. You can also bring some fun in the bedroom with oral sex as foreplay for you both, along with some good kissing and hugging!
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The Goddess Collection – January 2010
ONCE AGAIN it’s time to share with you another beauty in the collection of enchanting and classic women as ‘Goddess of the Month’.
The goddess of January is the sultry Rita Moreno, born Rosa Dolores Alverio on December 11, 1932 in Humacao, Puerto Rico. In 1937, Rita moved to New York City along with her mother, where she began a professional career before she was a teenager. The 11-year-old Rosita got her first movie experience dubbing Spanish-language versions of American films. Less than a month before her 14th birthday on November 11, 1945, she made her Broadway debut in the play “Skydrift” at the Belasco Theatre, co-starring with Arthur Keegan and the young Eli Wallach.
Moreno quickly moved on to the glamorous Hollywood silver screen, with her role as ‘Zelda Zanders’ in the 1952 movie Singin’ in the Rain, and later as ‘Tuptim’ in the 1956 movie The King and I. By 1961, Moreno delivered the unforgettable performance that would skyrocket her career. Playing the role of ‘Anita’ in the movie version of the smash hit Broadway musical West Side Story won her a well-deserved Oscar as Best Supporting Actress.
Along the way Puerto Rican-born Moreno has become a trailblazer and inspiration for aspiring Latino actors. Rita Moreno’s versatility as a performer has led to decades of success on stage, screen, and television. She is the only female entertainer to have won all four of the most prestigious show business awards: the Oscar for the role of Anita in the 1961 film West Side Story, the Tony for the role of Googie Gomez in the 1975 production of The Ritz, Emmy awards in 1977 and 1978 for appearances on The Muppet Show and The Rockford Files, and a Grammy for her 1972 performance on The Electric Company Album. More recently, Moreno received a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in 1995.
“Bigger than life is not difficult for me. I am bigger than life.” Rita Moreno
Visit MY TUMBLR – Gallery of Erotica for the entire Rita Moreno January collection…
Visit Courtesan Alexa’s Youtube Channel – EROSTUBE for more classic sexy screen sirens…
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